Do you consider yourself selfish? Most of us wouldn’t admit to that, even if we were.

When our concern is about ourself and what we can profit out of a situation, that would be considered selfish. Those that are selfish have an attitude of being served, then to serve. Always wanting things for themselves, and not thinking about others.

Think about it, that’s how most of us are with God. We are selfish when it comes to God. We pray and ask God for things, and expect Him to give it to us. And that’s what we should do — ask with expectations. But, we don’t want to do the things he ask of us. Which is actually, disobedience.

God ask that we trust Him, obey Him, and love Him. We trust others first, rarely obey him, and love others more than we love him.

When we do for others, we have done it to God. We are here to serve, not to be served.

Ask yourself, do you expect God to serve you, instead of you serving God?

Mark 11:24 (KJV) – therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.

Proverbs 3:5 (KJV) – trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

Deuteronomy 13:4 (KJV) – ye shall walk after the Lord your God, and fear him, and keep his commandments, and obey his voice, and ye shall serve him, and cleave unto him.

Joshua 23:11 (KJV) – take good heed therefore unto yourselves, that ye love the Lord our God.

Matthew 25:40 (KJV) – and the King shall answer and say unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye have done it unto one of the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me.

Galatians 5:13 (KJV) – for, brethren, ye have been called unto liberty; only use not liberty for an occasion to the flesh, but by love serve one another.

When the answer to something we pray for, is no, we see it as a negative or rejection. Everything that looks good, or even sounds good, is not always good for us. And just because someone else has something that we want, doesn’t mean it’s meant for us.

Every ‘no’ from God is good, we just have to trust Him. We don’t always know what’s good for us, so why not trust in who does?

God wants us to trust Him with all our heart. If we can trust God when he says yes, why can’t we trust Him when he says no? There’s a blessing in the no.

God knows everything, and what’s best for you. So when He tells you no, trust that it’s for your good, and in due time, you will see that it is.

Trust God’s no.

Ecclesiastes 6:12 (KJV) – for who knoweth what is good for man in this life, all the days of his vain life which he spendeth as a shadow? for who can tell a man what shall be after him under the sun?

Proverbs 3:5 (KJV) – trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.

I John 3:20 (KJV) – for if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things.

God doesn’t “try”, he “does”. We are the ones that are trying.

I don’t recall anywhere in the word of God where it says; “God tried to do”. But it does says, his word doesn’t come back void, and he can’t tell a lie.

God’s word does say, he tried people, but that means he challenged them. And it does say, his word is tried. But it doesn’t say, He tried to do this, or that.

Therefore, in our speaking of our Father, let not our words speak, that God tried to tell me something, or God tried to show me this or that — because God doesn’t try.

Hebrews 6:18 (KJV) – that by two immutable things, in which it was impossible for God to lie, we might have a strong consolation, who have fled for refuge to lay hold upon the hope set before us.

Isaiah 55:11 (KJV) – so shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.

Psalm 66:10 (KJV) – for thou, O God, hast proved us: thou hast tried u, as silver is tried.

II Samuel 22:31 (KJV) – as for God, his way is perfect; the word of the Lord is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him.

At one time or another, we have all had the expectations of someone doing what we said do. In others words, we were expecting others to live by what we say — well, that’s controlling.

We have no right to the lives of others. Every last one of us are borrowed, we are loaned to one another. We belong to God, and our lives should be lived according to the word of God, by His words, not controlled by others.

There’s nothing wrong with giving your opinion, or giving good advice, but it’s wrong to be controlling.

Remember, man will live by every word that come out of the mouth of God. Therefore, whatever you say, going forward, let it be with grace.

Proverbs 21:2 (KJV) – every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the Lord pondereth the hearts.

Matthew: 4:4 (KJV) – but he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.

Isaiah 55:11 (KJV) – so shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.

Colossians 4:6 (KJV) – let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man.

We do what we want to do, say what we want to say. We are our own boss! But, are we?

We say we are going to do this or that, not even thinking about what God’s plan is for us. We go by our own plan for ourselves, until we are at our worst and our back is up against the wall, then we cry out to our Father.

We make a mess of our lives so much, it’s automatic problematic, and we don’t even realize it.

We are bought with a price. We are not our own, but we seem to think we are. When the mess we have made is truly resolved, it is not ourselves that did it, but God. When I mean truly resolved, I mean not a temporary resolution– but totally resolved.

Get out of the mess you made, by reading the word of God. He knows what’s best for you, and He will show you how to make your crooked places straight.

Remember, God is the boss!

James 4:15 (KJV) – for that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.

II Samuel 22:7 (KJV) – in my distress I called upon the Lord, and cried to my God: and he did hear my voice out of his temple, and my cry did enter into his ears.

I Corinthians 6:19-20 (KJV) – what? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.

Isaiah 40:4 (KJV) – every valley shall be exalted, and every mountain and hill shall be made low: and the crooked shall be made straight, and the rough places plain.

We should be very careful what we speak. Because, every word that comes out of our mouth, we will give account to God.

Just because others haven’t heard some of the things we have said in murmuring, or in private to others, we will give account.

We can’t tame our tongue, but we can be mindful of what we say, by being quick to listen, and slow to speak.

Think about what you say from this point going forward, because our Father will judge what you have said in the day of judgment. Repent and ask for forgiveness, He is faithful to forgive you, and even cleanse you from what you have done wrong.

Matthew 12:36 (KJV) – but I say unto you, that every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.

James 3:8 (KJV) – but the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.

James 1:19 (KJV) – wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath.

I John 1:9 (KJV) – if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

When we try to take matters into our own hands, we miss the most important part — the lesson, and the blessing.

We are so impatient, we don’t want to wait. Whatever it is, we want it now. We want the relationship now, the money now, the victory now. But, there are so many consequences when we don’t wait.

When we wait, there is so much more in the waiting. It is in the waiting — in your journey as you wait, that you receive God’s guidance, understanding, wisdom, blessings — and so much more than what you ask for.

Stop failing less of life’s lessons, and learn to wait on God. It is He, who will renew your strength, and give you the blessings.

Isaiah 30:18 (KJV) – and therefore will the Lord wait, that he may be gracious unto you, and therefore will he be exalted, that he may have mercy upon you: for the Lord is a God of judgment: blessed are all they that wait for him.

Ephesians 3:20 (KJV) – now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us.

Isaiah 40:31 (KJV) – but they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; that shall run, and not he weary; and they shall walk, and not faint.