Men and women, from the beginning of time, are looking for a husband or a wife. In time past, the man always seek the woman. It was improper for a woman to seek a man. Nowadays, it’s very common for the woman to seek after the man.
Regardless, if you are meant to be with someone, you don’t have to make special efforts to prove yourself, compete or impress someone that is meant for you. Competition and impressing others is the work of the flesh, which is a never ending battle. Self-efforts is very stressful and draining.
What God wants for you, will be revealed to you, and the other person. What’s meant for you, is only for you, not for someone else. Stop trying so hard to get what is not meant for you to have.
Proverbs 18:22 (KJV) – whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord.
Galatians 5:16 (KJV) – this I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.