Allow God to be the architect in your life. Look to Him to build you up.
Stop trying to do it in your own strength. Stop trying to be in control, and seek Him for guidance. Let God do it, He wants to do it for you.
I Chronicles 16:1 (KJV) – seek the Lord and his strength, seek his face continually.
Isaiah 41:10 (KJV) – fear thou not, for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness.